Princeton dating scene

The Ivy League Students Least Likely to Get Married

When I read Susan A. Patton's letter to the Daily Princetonian published on March 29, "Advice for the young women of Princeton: the daughters I never had," I wasn't particularly surprised by what she had to say. The idea of acquiring an MRS degree while at school isn't exactly a new one; my mother had given similar, albeit more tactful, advice when I was in college. What did surprise me was that no one, in all of the various reaction pieces, pointed out that while "the universe of women" her sons could marry is "limitless," the dating and marriage prospects at Princeton for those of us who are not visibly Princetonian, namely heteronormative, cis-gendered, and white, aren't quite as great. As an African-American woman, I found myself in a very small minority at Princeton in I remember sitting in the student center my freshman year with a group of friends, discussing our dating prospects. Having also been told that our "stock" would never be higher after freshman year someone said something about being "fresh meat," which was disturbing in and of itself , we lamented our lack of dating options. We had come up with a rough estimate of how many men were available as potential husbands in our class year in a very crude "flowchart" — and it showed how dismal our prospects were as minority women. This chart, now long-lost, accounted for the already taken men and the fact that we never saw our male engineering friends unless they took a break from studying ditto for the student-athletes.

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Hi, i will be attending Princeton in the fall of as a freshman. I have a serious boyfriend who i love so much, and we have plans to continue our relationship in college he is an athlete going to penn state , but i am scared that it 1. I just do not know what to do this upcoming august, and i cannot stop thinking about our end. I am struggling because I see myself dating someone in college and continuing the relationship until possible marriage, yes I know this is not how love works and it is good to experiment, but i just am not that kind of person. Please help. You may or may not find someone at Princeton whom you connect with deeply—but a big part of that will depend on you.

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What cause could be so important that it stirs academically busy, yet politically apathetic Ivy Leaguers from their studies? What is this culture to which so many students are reacting and against which they are fighting? This culture — this dominant moral ethos on campus, this ideological and intellectual orthodoxy — is perhaps best comprehended by understanding what it has wrought. In a phrase, it is the hookup culture — a sexual and social atmosphere marked by impulsive sexual decision-making and casual, uncommitted relationships. The word culture is crucial here, as it encompasses the full implications of the relationship decisions of modern college students. Whether or not informal and sometimes anonymous liaisons constitute the majority of sexual encounters on campus, the moral attitude which condones and, more importantly, embraces this activity is the dominant social, intellectual, and cultural trend at Princeton.

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Conservative Counterculture: Responding to the Hookup Culture at Princeton

Get the Upshot in your Inbox. Although the university is coy about the exact number of Tiger-Tiger marriages, Princeton tour guides are often asked about matrimonial prospects, and sometimes include apocryphal statistics — 50 percent! Maybe 75! With an insular campus social scene, annual reunions and a network of alumni organizations in most major cities, opportunities to find a special someone wearing orange and black are many.

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