Online dating while fat

Dating as a ‘fat’ person

Last Updated: June 3, References. This article was co-authored by John Keegan. With over 10 years of professional experience, he runs The Awakened Lifestyle, where he uses his expertise in dating, attraction, and social dynamics to help people find love. There are 11 references cited in this article, which can be found at the bottom of the page. This article has been viewed 12, times. Entering the dating scene can be difficult, but it can be even more intimidating if you are overweight. Tip: Take a shower, brush your teeth, and put on deodorant before your date to make sure you smell good, too! Tip: Having good photos is what will attract people to your profile.

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Meeting a potential partner in the wild, meet-cute style would obviously be preferable to a mutual right swipe on Tinder. After all, what does my size have to do with dating? The answer is… everything. For people like me, who live in bigger bodies, dating comes with a whole other layer of stress—especially when we use dating apps. As a plus-size woman, choosing both what I write in my dating app bio and the photos I use takes special consideration. Not only that, but just swiping through so much vitriol and hatred spewed towards people like me can really break my spirit and self-confidence. I love myself and my body deeply, and I consider myself a pretty secure person, but one can only endure so much before it begins to wear you down.

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As Elijah walked closer, and the start of our first date loomed, several paranoid scenarios flitted through my mind: Would one of my classmates or friends see us together and taunt me for dating a fat man? Would someone secretly snap photos of us and then spread them on social media as a way of poking fun at us—a fat couple? I waited for him to reach me, and when he did, all the panic and fear dissipated into the warm night.

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The Messed-Up Reason I Couldn’t Date a Fellow Fat Person

Plenty has been written about how dating apps have revolutionised dating and relationships over the past decade. It does not help that I am someone who is considered overweight. The algorithm of these apps are known to favour those who are conventionally attractive—at least in their pictures—and this usually sends users into a scramble to find their most flattering photographs. It is not uncommon for someone to—intentionally or sometimes inadvertently—use old pictures or camera tricks that slightly misrepresent their actual appearance.

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