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LoginWhen I read Susan A. Patton's letter to the Daily Princetonian published on March 29, "Advice for the young women of Princeton: the daughters I never had," I wasn't particularly surprised by what she had to say. The idea of acquiring an MRS degree while at school isn't exactly a new one; my mother had given similar, albeit more tactful, advice when I was in college. What did surprise me was that no one, in all of the various reaction pieces, pointed out that while "the universe of women" her sons could marry is "limitless," the dating and marriage prospects at Princeton for those of us who are not visibly Princetonian, namely heteronormative, cis-gendered, and white, aren't quite as great. As an African-American woman, I found myself in a very small minority at Princeton in I remember sitting in the student center my freshman year with a group of friends, discussing our dating prospects. Having also been told that our "stock" would never be higher after freshman year someone said something about being "fresh meat," which was disturbing in and of itself , we lamented our lack of dating options. We had come up with a rough estimate of how many men were available as potential husbands in our class year in a very crude "flowchart" — and it showed how dismal our prospects were as minority women.
There is a legend that 50 percent of Princetonians — or 75 percent, depending on who you ask — end up marrying other Princetonians. This myth has been told on Orange Key Tours, written about in the New York Times, and passed through many students, though no one can pinpoint exactly where it came from. Around 50 Princetonian marriages take place at the Princeton University Chapel each year. To exit those heavy oak doors as a wedded couple is a privilege granted only to Princetonians or someone marrying a Princetonian. The venue is available for students, staff, faculty, alumni, emeritus faculty, and the children of each of those categories, according to Reverend Alison Boden, Dean of Religious Life and of the Chapel.
Navigating relationships at Princeton is inevitable when you are surrounded by people who have so much to bring to the table. There are geniuses. In fact, it can almost be overwhelming. However, college is a special moment in time where people from all walks of life are within your fingertips and it can be a truly beautiful experience taking advantage of this and getting to know them.
Yet Charlotte, like most of her peers, found herself drawn into it, and who could blame her? After all, culture influences conduct. Students, like other human beings, want to be — and want to appear to be — normal. So it is hardly surprising that most will be swayed by whatever happens to be regarded as the norm.
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