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Twenty Hard Things About Being Married to a White Man

Yet, there I was, feet dipped in clear water, staring into the horizon, trying to convince two middle-aged women whom I did not know that the man I was with was indeed my husband. By the fourth day of our vacation on the islands, we had got used to being stared at. But when curious glances turned to quizzical looks, we began to realise that we were considered an oddity: A brown woman with a white man. She then asked me questions about our wedding and everything that had led to it. Then the other woman, who had remained silent until then, asked me for proof. Where are your bangles? I showed them the fading mehendi on my palms. Why did I do that?

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As a child of Indian immigrants growing up in white suburban Connecticut, I was the only brown kid in school for most of my early childhood. Constant race-based microaggressions and straight-up bullying in elementary school taught me that my Indian identity brought ridicule and shame at the hands of my white peers. No one could pronounce my name, and both kids and teachers found humor in butchering it. We had statues of Hindu deities in our home, I knew no Bible stories, and I had never been skiing. By middle school, after years of being laughed at for being different, I knew that in order to survive socially, I needed to move as far as possible from anything Indian, so I chose to assimilate and render myself as culturally white as possible. I listened to Phish and wore tie-dye shirts and Birkenstocks. Seeking Social Safety: Crafting an identity as a reaction to racism and fear Through adolescence, I built social armor consisting of Grateful Dead and R.

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Growing up, the media featured an endless parade of white male actors positioned as romantic leads — like Brad Pitt , Leonardo DiCaprio , Orlando Bloom — and, I suspect as a result, many of my early crushes were white men. Accordingly, I found myself fancying and dating a long chain of mostly interchangeable nerdy, indie white boys throughout my late teens and early twenties. Sign up to The Hook-Up and we'll slide into your inbox every week with all the latest sex and dating stories from Metro. We can't wait for you to join us! There was the guy who told me outright that he was attracted to me because his first crush was on Konnie Huq.

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A brown woman with a white man brings out the worst in Indians

We've kept the magazine online as an archive and hope you'll still continue to enjoy all of its contributions from the last 8 years. Social Issues. Whiteness, much like gender, is a performance. My experience of the dating scene here in the UK as a brown man from the subcontinent has mostly been negative, and I think my lack of performative whiteness is the problem. There have been several instances when my politeness was mistaken for an unwarranted advance.

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