Gay man dating a transman

Ask Dr. Laura: Trans Men Should Look Beyond Gay Dating Outlets

We aim to break boundaries, think outside of binaries and build bridges within our communities and beyond. Stay connected, and tell a friend. Have a question? Email askkai xtramagazine. The only thing that still gives me dysphoria is how intimidated I get around cis men. When I was really young, the first queer people I ever met were TERFS trans exclusionary radical feminists who taught me to hate and fear masculinity, so you can imagine the damage that did. But I still find myself flocking to spaces that have very few or no guys in them. When a man speaks to me, I instinctively make myself small and raise the pitch of my voice, afraid. How do we as trans people survive in spaces that are primarily made for cis people—specifically, cis people attracted to the same gender?

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His wispy boyish mustache and baby face belie his 30 years. His black hair is short on the sides with an unruly mass of curls on top. A large chest tattoo peeks out from his low-cut tank top: It reads identity.

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Dear Dr. Laura, I am a gay man who is also transgender. What do you do when your community only accepts half of who you are? You are definitely not alone in your pondering of how to navigate more than one queer identity. Being marginalized in one way is enough, without adding an additional identity that can make a person feel deeply overwhelmed. Let me just say up front that dating sucks and not in a good way.

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Transmen and the City

Dating us doesn't make you gay. Unless you're a guy, of course! But ladies, if you're attracted to men, fancying a trans guy doesn't suddenly change your sexuality.

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