Dating my best friends ex

10 Questions to Ask Yourself Before You Decide To Date a Friend's Ex

Well, I broke that rule. Kind of. And even though I "kinda, sorta" broke that rule, I'm not a terrible person, and I'm tired of being shamed for breaking a rule that doesn't even actually exist. Once upon a time, I had a best friend. She had a boyfriend. She and I were close for a few years, a couple of which were when she was with said boyfriend, until one day we got into an argument which turned into a huge blowout. After that day, we never spoke to each other again except for once, when literally 3 text messages were exchanged. Fast forward almost a year after her and I stopped speaking to each other and almost a year after her and her boyfriend broke up , and I was dating this ex-boyfriend of hers.

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You never think anything could breakup you and your best friend, but you could be wrong. Everyone has unspoken rules or guidelines around what is and is not okay to do in their friendship, otherwise known as bro or girl code. These guidelines might be as harmless as not giving unsolicited advice to more serious deal breakers like not abandoning your intoxicated friend at a party. While we can all agree the ex-files is not territory we should be steering into, sometimes life happens and we fall for people unexpectedly. Beyond mutual unhealthiness, was their relationship abusive? If so, there are two things you should seriously contemplate:.

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By Jackie Pilossoph , Founder, Divorced Girl Smiling, the place to find trusted, vetted divorce professionals, a podcast, website and mobile app. There are a few different instances that happened during the time I was newly separated that caused me to classify myself as temporarily psychotic, one of those being when I figured out my ex was dating my friend. When I found out my ex was dating my friend, I seriously felt like I was going to go insane with anger.

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Is it ever okay to date your friend’s ex? We asked a couples therapist

Sometimes when you develop feelings they happen to be for your friend's ex. But, pursuing these feelings might not always be worth it. Some friends might be cool with you dating their ex, but other friends may feel it's crossing the line. Here are some potential red flags to consider if you're trying to decide whether or not dating someone your friend has dated is a good idea. Whether the relationship went down in flames or if two people who truly loved each other realized that things just weren't going to work out, most breakups can be tough.

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