Dating financially unstable man

Can a Relationship Progress If One Party is Financially Unstable?

I often felt like a caretaker for one of my last few boyfriends; I felt financially responsible for him, and stressed out as if I were a year-old single mother with a year-old child. I felt like he drained my resources, and gave nothing in return. He made me feel that way. In the other relationship, I mostly felt confused. I felt judged by him and often by his family for not making or saving as much money as him, even when I knew I was working twice as hard and just had more financially responsibilities to manage. There was a period of time where I had more money than him, and a period of time where I had none, and he had it in excess. Simply put, if I or we wanted to do anything , I knew it was coming out of my wallet. If I wanted to leave the house, it was going to be solely my job to fund the journey even if the journey was just to the gas station for a cup of coffee. But I do believe in teamwork, and I believe in give-and-take. I believe in taking care of the people you love, and being taken care of back.

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With those concluding words from him, my most serious and lengthiest relationship came to an end. It was NOT the absence of money; it was more so his lack of a plan or motivation to become financially stable. After months of not going on dates and lending him money, I felt I really needed him to lock down what he was going to do to reach financial stability. I strongly feel that at his age of 34, a person needs to either 1 be financially secure or 2 have a sense of urgency to reach financial security. Kristin Magaldi of Bustle. Now, our relationship did not come to a conclusion simply due to one factor. For months, I seriously analyzed both of our: contrasting personalities, long term plans and core values.

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Yes, we are imperfect creatures, yes, it is maybe a bit hypocritical, but it is human. So before I continue to spoil the question and the answer! And he grew up essentially on a hippie commune, so for him, this lifestyle has always been the norm and the expectation. And this of course intoxicated my college-self, and his indomitable spirit and joy for life are what keep me so in love with him. But this would mean that I would have to support my husband, more or less, and would have to cut out a lot of my financial plans.

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What To Do With Your Wonderful-But-Broke Boyfriend

We're breaking down the pros, cons, signs, and solutions for people dating men in the middle of a rough financial patch. Unless you're born into money — which is only true for about 1. Also, we're experiencing a changing and challenging economy.

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