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LoginI received an email from a distraught young woman describing how her boyfriend of five years struggles with divided loyalties between her and his identical twin brother. As a result, they blame the girlfriend for fragmenting the twin attachment. Either consciously or unconsciously, she must feel defeated and frustrated that her boyfriend seems unable to make significant decisions so that she can get on with her life—with or without him. She is certainly not being treated with the respect and devotion that she deserves. I think that she was initially optimistic that her boyfriend would find a solution to this conundrum. She had no idea when she became involved with this young man that his twinship might lead to a break-up. However, as many intimate partners of twins discover, some twins suffer from tremendous heartache, sadness, and a sense of betrayal when they switch their allegiance away from their sibling. My heart goes out to all of the involved parties. So, he must choose between his loving girlfriend and his demanding family. Sadly, this scenario is not terribly uncommon.
Feelings of comparison are natural and felt by everyone, but are perhaps amplified when you shared the same womb, the same genes, same face and same matching outfits with someone else — your twin. We were born only 18 minutes apart, treated and loved absolutely equally and each given the same opportunities as the other. Naturally, as we grew up, our lives went on different paths. She got the first job, first boyfriend, the first school trip away, while I waited in the wings.
As a twin myself, I can attest to this. But that means when it comes to dating a twin, it can be a very unusual experience.
Potential suitors, you need to read this before you dare Follow Dominique on Instagram here , and if you want to follow her twin, Olivia, click here. Instagram- ddtemple. No matter how great a boyfriend you are, you will never be the best friend. Always be nice to the other half - no twin wants to feel like a third wheel.
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6/27/2024
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