Dating a married couple

This Is How Often Married Couples Should Plan Date Nights

Many people who begin the polyamory journey are already married. The poly community has a lot to say about this configuration, but below is a comprehensive guide to navigating this style of poly. Are you new to non-monogamy? It is actually rare that a person will be interested in having a relationship with both parts of a couple. These relationships start out with mutual interest, but usually the third person decides to follow their desires and spend more time or energy with the person they are most attracted to.

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Do you remember your very first date with your spouse? Perhaps it was at a cafe, or a play. Or you may have stayed up all night and into the wee hours of the morning, discussing how life would be like together. When the big day came and you became a married couple, you thought that life together would always be the same. And, although your marriage may be enriching and full of joy, sometimes, it becomes easy to fall into a routine and we tend to forget that this happiness requires work to sustain.

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When were engaged and getting ready for our wedding, the pastor who did our pre-marital counseling made a big deal about how important a regular date night would be to our future marriage. Back then, we both kind of shrugged that suggestion off as no big deal—of course going on dates would be easy! But then our kids were born, and work and family responsibilites began to crowd out everything else, and regular time together began to take a backseat. I thought it would get easier to go on more dates as the kids got older. But even though we now have a built-in babysitter in our teenage daughter, it's still hard for us to find the energy and time to make a regular date night a priority.

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Married couples: Benefits of dating weekly

Three may be a crowd but it can also be a whole lot of fun with the right approach. You're not out for a threesome fling — you're in this for the medium to long haul. So while there will probably be a physical component to the relationship, being a couple's "third" often means you'll also go on dates and spend time with them in much the same way you would with an individual. You'll increase your chances of exciting conversation but decrease your chances of successfully splitting a main course. If you are dating a couple, it's not cheating because everyone is aware and consenting to the arrangement.

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