Dating a hiv positive girl

HIV-Positive and Dating

I was 28 and he was just hitting It was my first steady, long-term relationship, and we did what I used to think of as "grown-up" things. Like having Sunday football parties or fighting in Home Depot about what color to paint an accent wall in our living room. We made complex weekday dinners to distract ourselves from the fact that we were both pretty bored with each other. Of course, I wasn't really grown up, because I had never even been tested for HIV at my yearly checkup at Planned Parenthood , where I went for primary care. Taking care of your health is more adult than playing house with a boyfriend, yet, even though I had been tested for STIs, I had never thought of getting an HIV test. But one day, randomly, I added the HIV rapid test to the list of things to do before intake to my pap smear appointment. I thought it was a formality I should finally take care of. The positive result almost didn't compute at first. What does that mean?

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It is meant to reflect the fact that people with HIV can now not only have a normal quality of life, but they can also plan for the future, have kids, and carry on healthy sexual relationships if provided with the proper treatment and a few preventive guidelines. But even with these facts in mind, many people with HIV still find dating enormously stressful. The very pursuit of romance can open that person up to vulnerabilities that go well beyond the simple fear of rejection. After all, disclosing your HIV status to a friend is one thing; disclosing it to a romantic interest brings up a whole other set of issues and concerns. Laws in some states require that people disclose their HIV-positive status to sexual partners. While there are other important reasons to disclose your status to any sexual partners, this is an additional factor to consider.

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You know what coffee they drink and how they feel about pineapple on pizza. Before you make any big decisions, take some time to work out how you feel — and do some research to help answer your questions. Show them the same respect in how you respond. Science and medicine have come a long way in the treatment of HIV. What this means is that HIV can now be managed long-term, much like diabetes.

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Dating with HIV: this is what it’s really like to live with HIV

Romantic and sexual relationships between people with different or the same HIV status used to be considered off-limits because of the myths surrounding HIV-positive people. However, times are changing! There is an ongoing fight against stigmas and stereotypes , allowing people to live happier and healthier lives.

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